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mafattiee: just in: i love marina diamandis

Sat, 25 May 2013 20:39:10 +0200

just in: i love marina diamandis

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Sat, 25 May 2013 19:31:06 +0200

People when talking about online activism that challenges their prejudice notions: Why don't you get out in the real world and do something?? Whining on tumblr and the internet doesn't change anything!

Sat, 25 May 2013 19:06:03 +0200

People when talking about online activism that challenges their prejudice notions: Why don't you get out in the real world and do something?? Whining on tumblr and the internet doesn't change anything!
Same exact people discussing the internet in every single other instance: The internet is such a powerful tool it really brings us together in so many ways and connects us, it's the most essential tool for spreading information and changing things the most immense way because everyone is on the internet, social media has really changed the world.

"i’m sorry, but that’s just the way it is"

Sat, 25 May 2013 15:01:21 +0200

“i’m sorry, but that’s just the way it is”

- people who benefit from the way it is and does not want to change it anytime soon and aren’t sorry at all (via rhardbeck)

6 Ways to Talk to Your Son About Male Violence and Healthy Masculinity

Sat, 25 May 2013 13:30:02 +0200

6 Ways to Talk to Your Son About Male Violence and Healthy Masculinity:

treatquestion:

Boys as young as 4 year old are told to “be a man!”, usually in response to them crying or showing fear.

And as they grow up, they’re bombarded with messages that say to be a “manly” man, they need to:

Be big and strong

Be physically aggressive and ready to fight

Show no emotions – especially fear or pain but anger is just fine

Feel entitled to objectify women and sexually pursue women regardless of whether or not she’s interested

It doesn’t take a leap of faith to see how this history has led to our society and media promoting images of masculinity as inherently obsessed with fighting and sex.

And then having some men turn that image into a reality where they feel entitled to be assault and dominate others, particularly women.

So many men are caring, responsible, and non-violent people. But while many men don’t use violence to express their feelings or control others, many don’t feel comfortable showing the other sides of them for fear of being called “gay”, “girly”, “soft,” or “emotional”.

That’s why we need to change the conversation around masculinity. We need the definition of masculinity to reflect the diversity present in men beyond the narrow box they have now.

1. Meet them where they’re at: Many men may not have thought critically about how society portrays masculinity. It may be assumed to just be normal – that this is just part of being a man.

So they may not see why it’s something important enough to discuss. At the same time, many men may be uncomfortable with how they are represented in the media and don’t identify with the beefy, fighting, womanizing men in the movies.

So it’s important to not assume anything about their beliefs, make them wrong, or attempt to change them. The point is not to create another narrow box for them to fit into but to expand the choices they have and support them in exploring what masculinity is aligned with their values.

2. Help them to identify male role models they know: While the media may glorify violent men, in real life, they are usually not the ones we admire. Men who are responsible, empathetic, caring, and contribute to the community are usually admired.

Ask them how these men show strength in their relationships and how they treat people. Helping them to see how the men they respect do not fit this traditional notion expands their understanding of masculinity and gives them more options.

For many, this may be the first time they’ve thought consciously about how strong good men they respects do not fit that mold.

3. Discuss how the media presents the ideal man: The media is filled with portrayals of fictional male characters who are primarily rewarded for fighting and getting the girl.

Ask him how this affects his idea of how men should act and compare it to how men he respects act. Often times men haven’t really compared the two and hear the traditional notion much more strongly to the point where they don’t see other ways of being a man.

4. Discuss how traditional masculinity shows up in their own behavior: While many men may not be violent, traditional masculinity encourages other behaviors that are normalized in our society, such as street harassment, a sense of sexual entitlement, use of physical intimidation over smaller people, etc.

So it’s important for them to connect the dots between more violent acts and more socially sanctioned behaviors stemming from male domination. The more aware they are about their own behavior, the more they can choose whether or not they want to continue doing it.

5. Discuss the role of traditional masculinity in violence, particularly against women: Since they have been socialized to think traditional masculinity is the ideal, it can take time for them to connect it with something they’re against like violence. So work backwards and discuss what can lead a man to feel comfortable with becoming violent.

While traditional masculinity does not necessarily always lead to violence, it does support male domination over others. And this creates a permissive culture where “boys will be boys”, “he can’t control himself sometimes”, and “she was asking for it”.

6. Discuss how non-violent men can be a part of ending violence: Many men who are not violent think that because they’re not doing it, that’s enough. But that should be the floor and not the ceiling for men’s engagement in the efforts to end violence. Sharing statistics about domestic violence and sexual abuse with them can help them see that they probably know several women and men who have been abused but never knew.

Show them different ways they can be involved – whether it’s learning more about the issue, volunteering at nonprofits, or discussing it with their male and female peers – they can do something to stop the violence.

These discussions aren’t easy. In fact, they can be extremely tricky and you may find yourself judging him or getting upset at different times.

So remember, you’re challenging years of society and media telling them what a “man” is. These concepts run deep on the subconscious level and by even engaging in the conversation, they’re taking a big step.

Also, let them know that being a man is only one possible gender, not the only one, that male-assigned people can be, and that some people not assigned male at birth are men also.

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Fri, 24 May 2013 21:11:33 +0200

EDF energy explains they are NOT the anti-islam group English...

Thu, 23 May 2013 23:47:00 +0200

EDF energy explains they are NOT the anti-islam group English Defense League

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Thu, 23 May 2013 18:43:22 +0200

I love his laugh at the end :’)

Thu, 23 May 2013 16:13:48 +0200

I love his laugh at the end :’)

queer as in...: Putting the "men are raped more often" myth to bed.

Thu, 23 May 2013 13:30:14 +0200

queer as in...: Putting the "men are raped more often" myth to bed.:

riotrite:

Trigger warning for sexual violence statistics.

This is the executive summary of the Center for Disease Control’s 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey:http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/pdf/NISVS_Executive_Summary-a.pdf

It is the most definitive source that exists for this kind of statistic in the US.

Here is what it says: “Nearly 1 in 5 women (18.3%) and 1 in 71 men (1.4%) in the United States have been raped at some time in their lives, including completed forced penetration, attempted forced penetration, or alcohol/drug facilitated completed penetration.”

Here is another thing it says: “Across all types of violence, the majority of female victims reported that their perpetrators were male. Male rape victims and male victims of non-contact unwanted sexual experiences reported predominantly male perpetrators.”

End of story. You can willfully misinterpret poorly sourced numbers about sexual assault in prison all you want. You do not have better data than this. It is not “misandry” to say that more women are sexually assaulted than men. It is math.

- colorblinders

Thu, 23 May 2013 03:46:39 +0200

- colorblinders

"Women are afraid of meeting a serial killer. Men are afraid of meeting someone fat."

Wed, 22 May 2013 23:05:13 +0200

“Women are afraid of meeting a serial killer. Men are afraid of meeting someone fat.”

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When Strangers Click, a 2011 documentary about online dating.

It reminds me of that famous Margaret Atwood quote: “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” It also reminds me of something written by one of the mods of Sex Worker Problems: “Misandry irritates. Misogyny kills.”

edwardspoonhands: tyleroakley: Oops. lolololol

Wed, 22 May 2013 22:04:50 +0200

edwardspoonhands:

tyleroakley:

Oops.

lolololol

jfashionmagazines: KERA June 2013

Wed, 22 May 2013 04:46:19 +0200

jfashionmagazines:

KERA June 2013

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Tue, 21 May 2013 23:09:52 +0200

sheer-powder: “We’ve been ‘cool’ for a very long time, and in...

Tue, 21 May 2013 22:30:31 +0200

sheer-powder:

“We’ve been ‘cool’ for a very long time, and in that sense our culture has been taken for a very long time. How do we define when we’ve arrived? It’s not when a young, white girl in Berkley is wearing nice garlands or those nice buddhist beads, or wearing bindi. I don’t feel like my life in anyway has been improved because she has the ability to do that and thinks that’s okay. My life hasn’t improved. The life of my mother has not improved. Our voice as a community within this economic system has not improved.

A good friend of mine, she’s south Indian, and she grew up in Connecticut. Her mom would make her wear her bindi and go to school. She would get harassed by kids… she would be harassed so much that what she would do, is that because she was so ashamed to have that bindi on her head, she would leave her house, wipe it off… and then come home and put it back on.

To the point where a child would have to think about such a deliberate attempt to refute their own culture I think is pretty profound. If there’s a white girl wearing a bindi walking down central avenue in the heights, she’s not considered a dot head, even though she has a dot on her head.

For me, the feeling is disgust and anger. The way I look at it if I see it, I just get so mad because I think, how dare this person be able to wear that, or hold that, or put that statue in her house and not take any of the oppression for that. How dare they. That’s not fair. We have to take so much heat and repression for expressing ourselves.

I’m going to rip that thing off your head, and I’m going to scrub that mehndi off your hands, because you don’t have the right to wear it. Until the day when you walk in our shoes, and you face what we face… the pain, and the shame, and the hurt, and the fear, you don’t have the right to wear that. It is not your right, and you’re not worthy of it. I feel like it’s so superficial and it’s so disrespected. One day, wake up, be me, and then you’ll see how powerful what you’re wearing is. “

—Raahi Reddy, Yellow Apparel: When the Coolie Becomes Cool

mediamattersforamerica: Given recent allegations that 3...

Tue, 21 May 2013 16:46:27 +0200

mediamattersforamerica:

Given recent allegations that 3 military service members — all who are in charge of sexual assault programs — committed sexual assaults, Fox News has seriously underreported the topic. While MSNBC spent nearly 5 hours on it in the last 2 weeks, Fox News spent less than 19 minutes.

holdasmile: Ten Years ago; Buffy The Vampire Slayer Series...

Tue, 21 May 2013 00:59:45 +0200

holdasmile:

Ten Years ago; Buffy The Vampire Slayer Series Finale aired….Happy 10 Anniversary